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Attitude is Everything

I have to tell you, the more I think about it, the more I know that Attitude is everything. The key is to nurture your attitude so that it is healthy and helps you envision and create the positive outcomes you need in order to achieve REAL Success. Regular interaction with positive people is one route to maintaining a healthy attitude. So is being in a posture of continual growth. The real secret, though, to a great attitude is ACTION. Taking action and then studying the results so that you can do even better in the next cycle — celebrating what went right and creating tools to address the challenges will give you confidence as you continue the cycle of doing and learning.

But always remember that attitude is a choice. We cannot always choose our circumstances, but we can choose our attitude toward them. When I was in high school, I applied to go to the U.S. Naval Academy (USNA). I had a vision of myself providing great service to our nation in time of extreme need, and I was going to be prepared. My enthusiasm led me to seek out and spend regular time with the West Coast Regional Director of Admissions for USNA, Tom Teshera, and develop a great relationship. I got almost all of the way through the process to be accepted to USNA, but unfortunately, I narrowly missed the cut off for admission. I didn’t see this as a defeat, since you could apply so long as you hadn’t turned 22, so I figured out a way to improve my record so that I could gain admission the next year.

There was an easy way for highly motivated candidates to get to USNA, and numerous hard ways. In my pride and ignorance, I chose one of the latter. However, my enthusiastic attitude unwillingness to quit helped me attract the people I needed to make straight my crooked path. And in the final moment of challenge, when it looked as though I would fail yet again, Tom stood up for me, citing my indomitable attitude as proof that I would be able to succeed at USNA. Tom’s faith in me also gave me strong motivation to keep up my attitude whenever I was frustrated at USNA, showing how Relationships and Attitude are so vital to being a REAL Success.

Leadership

The foundational principle in John Maxwell’s philosophy of Leadership is that Leadership ability determines a person’s level of effectiveness. What are you doing to increase your leadership ability? You work by/for yourself, you say, so why do you need to worry about leadership? It doesn’t matter who you are, or what you want to accomplish, it will require you partnering with other people. Even if you are not “in charge” of others, leadership is all about our ability to influence other’s actions. So come out and learn a little bit about how to increase your leadership ability this week at Coffee and Coaching!

 

About Coffee and Coaching

Coffee and Coaching is an informal affair. Each week, we present a business or personal development topic to help people move forward their businesses. After the talk and Q & A session, a coach does some “laser coaching” where people have the opportunity to share a current challenge they are facing and discover a logical next step to get them moving forward in the right direction. After the coach gets things moving, the group is invited to “Mastermind” with the volunteer to discover additional novel ways to approach the issue. As the meeting begins to wrap up, people will have an opportunity to connect and network.

Coffee and Coaching is brought to you by TIPS: Together Inspiring Personal Success. Meetings are Friday afternoons from 3 PM to 5 PM at the Cosner’s Corner Panera Bread, 10059 Jefferson Davis Highway, Fredericksburg, VA. There is no charge for Coffee and Coaching.

Come out and bring a friend!

Equipping for the journey, plus a hint about Attitude

Wow, another incredible Coffee and Coaching session in the can. If you were able to make it, I hope that you got as excited about Equipping as I did. There are lots of reasons people don’t equip their team, but I suppose that the number one reason is that they don’t understand a fundamental principle of success: One is too small a number to achieve greatness. Are you of the opinion that you would rather just do it all yourself because you just like doing it or that others aren’t capable? Maybe the real problem is in your dream/vision for your success.

I used to be that kind of guy. Early in my career in information technology, I didn’t really have confidence in my team to get things done as well as I could, so I invested my time into getting it done myself unless I absolutely couldn’t do it myself. Sure, that solved the immediate problem, but it meant that when the next job came around, I was in the same spot all over again. I was hustling my butt off while my team was standing around wondering what was going on.

When I finally realized that I could organize myself and teach others, giving them training and mentoring along the way, backed with deadlines that were early and often enough so that I could make course corrections before they could adversely impact the schedule, I started my rise in my industry, I actually started to become a REAL success!

So remember to ask yourself these questions as you are working on your goal:

  • What is my Dream? — What could be?
  • Who is on my Team? — What is?
  • What is my Dream Team? — What must be?

To find your DREAM, equip your TEAM so that as your DREAM TEAM you can work together to achieve amazing things!

Attitude

John Maxwell loves to say, “Leadership less to do with position than disposition.”

Have you been part of a team that seemed to be an unstoppable juggernaut on its way to success, regardless of the challenges at hand? Have you ever been on a team that, regardless of its skills and talents, seemed cowed by the challenges it faced? I suspect that the attitudes of the leaders were very different… and that it eventually was reflected in the team at large.

Even if you are a “Team of One” right now, your attitude affects how you approach your activities, and eventually your success. Come and see what you can do to build a better attitude and get onto the path of success this week?

About Coffee and Coaching

Coffee and Coaching is an informal affair. Each week, we present a business or personal development topic to help people move forward their businesses. After the talk and Q & A session, a coach does some “laser coaching” where people have the opportunity to share a current challenge they are facing and discover a logical next step to get them moving forward in the right direction. After the coach gets things moving, the group is invited to “Mastermind” with the volunteer to discover additional novel ways to approach the issue. As the meeting begins to wrap up, people will have an opportunity to connect and network.

Coffee and Coaching is brought to you by TIPS: Together Inspiring Personal Success. Meetings are Friday afternoons from 3 PM to 5 PM at the Cosner’s Corner Panera Bread, 10059 Jefferson Davis Highway, Fredericksburg, VA. There is no charge for Coffee and Coaching.

Come out and bring a friend!

Reviewing Relationships…and thinking about Equipping

So, last Friday at Coffee and Coaching we got started looking at being a REAL success. John Maxwell teaches that success depends upon being able to develop and master four dimensions: Relationships, Equipping, Attitude, and Leadership. Naturally, we took first things first and talked about the 10 rules of relationships. The one that I find most interesting is the “101% Rule.” Now, I’m normally the kind of guy who feels that if we are getting real about things then I usually reject the ol’ 110% type things — giving a little bit extra… but the 101% Rule is a little different.

When we are seeking to have a relationship with people, we should focus on that 1% that we can both agree on and give that 100% of our effort rather than do what we often do, focus on the 1% we disagree on and give THAT 100% of our effort. When I was first married, my wife Ellen would cook dinner for me every night. At the end of each meal, she would ask, “How did you like it?” Knowing that as a newlywed she was eager to please me, I took her question to mean two things: Did you like it? How can it be better? My usual answer was, “Dinner was great. But xxx would make it even better next time.”

After a couple of months of this, one evening she about told me I could cook for myself! I was way to focused on the 1% we didn’t agree on and giving it 100% of my attention, instead of doing just the opposite. I definitely had some making up to do.

Truth is all of us get very sensitive when we are seeking to build relationship and people instead focus on our faults. On the other hand, we really build trust and confidence in people who are totally committed to the things we have in common. Why not be intentional this week about the 101% Rule and build trust with your team this week?

Equipping for Success

This week at Coffee and Coaching we will be talking about Equipping for Success. Big, lasting achievements always require a team to get them done. What are you doing to assemble and equip your team so that they can help you reach that vision of your goal? Are you holding back at all? Why not come learn about

About Coffee and Coaching

Coffee and Coaching is an informal affair. Each week, we present a business or personal development topic to help people move forward their businesses. After the talk and Q & A session, a coach does some “laser coaching” where people have the opportunity to share a current challenge they are facing and discover a logical next step to get them moving forward in the right direction. After the coach gets things moving, the group is invited to “Mastermind” with the volunteer to discover additional novel ways to approach the issue. As the meeting begins to wrap up, people will have an opportunity to connect and network.

Coffee and Coaching is brought to you by TIPS: Together Inspiring Personal Success. Meetings are Friday afternoons from 3 PM to 5 PM at the Cosner’s Corner Panera Bread, 10059 Jefferson Davis Highway, Fredericksburg, VA. There is no charge for Coffee and Coaching.

Come out and bring a friend!

How would you like to be a REAL Success?

There are several components you need to master in order to be a REAL success in life. At Coffee and Coaching this November, we will discuss the secret contained in REAL — Relationships, Equipping, Attitude, and Leadership — in order to help you along your success journey. Using material from John C. Maxwell’s book How To Be A REAL Success, we will examine these areas and help you put together your plan for becoming a REAL success.

Calendar

11/2 – Introduction / Relationships
11/9 – Equipping
11/16 – Attitude
11/23 – Happy Thanksgiving (No Coffee and Coaching)
11/30 – Leadership / Wrap-up

Format

Coffee and Coaching is an informal affair. Each week, we present a business or personal development topic to help people move forward their businesses. After the talk and Q & A session, a coach does some “laser coaching” where people have the opportunity to share a current challenge they are facing and discover a logical next step to get them moving forward in the right direction. After the coach gets things moving, the group is invited to “Mastermind” with the volunteer to discover additional novel ways to approach the issue. As the meeting begins to wrap up, people will have an opportunity to connect and network.

Logistics

Coffee and Coaching is brought to you by TIPS: Together Inspiring Personal Success. Meetings are Friday afternoons from 3 PM to 5 PM at the Cosner’s Corner Panera Bread, 10059 Jefferson Davis Highway, Fredericksburg, VA. There is no charge for Coffee and Coaching. Come out and bring a friend!

Admin

So join us Fridays at Panera Bread in Cosner’s Corner, 10059 Jefferson Davis Highway, Fredericksburg, VA. All meetings are Fridays from 3 to 5 PM. For more information, call me: (703) 622-5282.

Oh, and bring a friend!

The Practices of Connection

Last week we explored the five principles my good friend John Maxwell wrote about in his book, Everyone Communicates, Few Connect.These principles are foundational to our ability to create deep, rich, and lasting connections with the people that are important to you. In case you missed them, they are:

  • Connecting Increases Your Influence in Every Situation
  • Connecting Is All About Others
  • Connecting Goes Beyond Words
  • Connecting Always Requires Energy
  • Connecting is More Skill Than Talent

So, how do you put these into action? That would be The 5 Connection Practices. Come find out what they are at this week’s Coffee and Coaching.

If you enjoy the series and would like to dig deeper into “ECFC” why not sign up for the Mastermind group that will tackle this book in July? The ten week program begins on July 23. You will learn about the 5 connecting principles and the 5 connecting practices. Learn how to enrich the connections in your life and turn them into valuable relationships that pay dividends to your business, advocacy, or other personal endeavor.

That’s Coffee AND Coaching

Don’t foget, we also coach people who are facing personal or business challenges. In 5 minutes, I can help you see what your next step needs to be with whatever situation you have. And once we have made that first step, we Mastermind with the group. I am continuously amazed at the genius and generousity of our Coffee and Coaching devotees. It is inspiring and lots of fun! So come with a question or a challenge where you could use a little help and see the true wisdom of the team!

Admin

Coffee and Coaching is brought to you by TIPS: Together Inspiring Personal Success. Meetings are Friday afternoons from 3 PM to 5 PM at the Cosner’s Corner Panera Bread, 10059 Jefferson Davis Highway, Fredericksburg, VA. There is no charge for Coffee and Coaching. For more information, call me: (703) 622-5282.

Oh, and bring a friend!

The Principles of Connection

My good friend John Maxwell wrote a wonderful book, Everyone Communicates, Few Connect discussing an amazing challenge that many people have: how do we get beyond simply shouting and cajoling people and really get to know like and trust them? This week in Coffee and Coaching, we will discuss the 5 Connecting Principles that are necessary in order to create deep, rich, and lasting connections with the people that are important to you.

If you enjoy the series and would like to dig deeper into “ECFC” why not sign up for the Mastermind group that will tackle this book in July? The ten week program begins on July 23. You will learn about the 5 connecting principles and the 5 connecting practices. Learn how to enrich the connections in your life and turn them into valuable relationships that pay dividends to your business, advocacy, or other personal endeavor.

Admin

So join us on Friday at Panera Bread in Cosner’s Corner, 10059 Jefferson Davis Highway, Fredericksburg, VA. All meetings are Fridays from 3 to 5 PM. For more information, call me: (703) 622-5282.

Oh, and bring a friend!

 

 

Coffee and Coaching Schedule for May 2012

Well, hello everybody! I want to share with you the Coffee and Coaching schedule for the Month of May. We are going to look at the role of connection in great communication and creating lasting relationships.

Calendar

May 4 – No formal meeting due to Chick-fil-A Leadercast

May 11 -: the 5 Principles of Connection

May 18 – the 5 Practices of Connection

May 25 – the Role of Personality in Connection

Format

Coffee and Coaching is an informal affair. Each week, Dwayne Baptist presents a business or personal development topic to help people move forward their businesses. After the talk and Q & A session, Dwayne does some “laser coaching” where people have the opportunity to share a current challenge they are facing and discover a logical next step to get them moving forward in the right direction. After Dwayne gets things moving, the group is invited to “Mastermind” with the volunteer to discover additional novel ways to approach the issue. As the meeting begins to wrap up, people will have an opportunity to connect and network.

Logistics

Coffee and Coaching is brought to you by TIPS: Together Inspiring Personal Success. Meetings are Friday afternoons from 3 PM to 5 PM at the Cosner’s Corner Panera Bread, 10059 Jefferson Davis Highway, Fredericksburg, VA. There is no charge for Coffee and Coaching. Come out and bring a friend!

Coffee and Coaching: From Networking to Connection

Wasn’t last week a fun time, discussing the last element in our networking series: What to do AFTER the networking event? As we discussed, in everything you do when networking, begin by understanding what and WHY you are doing things. I personally subscribe to the idea that networking is not about getting business, but about creating meaningful connections with others. This happens by getting to know them and offering them genuine acts of service. These can be introductions that enhance their network, articles and/or information that would be valuable for their business, or anything else you want to do to enhance your relationship with others. Will your expected business potential with that person play some role in your decision? Perhaps, but where I suggest you head with your relations is turning them into walking ambassadors for you with their circles of influence.

Of course, you will probably do even more for those who are actual clients and/or active referral sources. That is great. We should always treat people well who are helping us. But always be ready to help people, regardless of what they are likely do be able to do for you. They may become your biggest, most influential referral source. Wouldn’t that be valuable?

Even more fun was helping people with the challenges offered for coaching. It was great helping one member discover she knew what to say to people when meeting them at a networking event. We also had a great time helping another member gain perspective on her role in the marketing/business development side of her business — something new to her.

The Coming Week

This Friday (4/27) will see us kick off our next themed block, focusing on the power of connection. The May schedule for Coffee and Coaching will be out shortly, and it will be chock full of connection-oriented subjects.

A note about The week after next

Yes, the May calendar is coming out, but I wanted you to know that we will NOT be meeting the first Friday in May (May 4, 2012). That is the day of the Chick-fil-A Leadercast. Would you like to join 125,000 leaders around the country for a great day of information, inspiration, and leadership? Then you’ll want to check out the Chick-fil-A Leadercast. Here in Fredericksburg, the event will be hosted at Fairview at River Place. The conference fee is $85 and includes lunch and snacks. It will be a great time! You can order tickets here. If you know people outside Fredericksburg who would like to join in the adventure, you can refer them to the main Chick-fil-A Leadercast web site.

Admin

So join us on Friday at Panera Bread in Cosner’s Corner, 10059 Jefferson Davis Highway, Fredericksburg, VA. All meetings are Fridays from 3 to 5 PM. For more information, call me: (703) 622-5282.

Oh, and bring a friend!

Coffee and Coaching: A final thought on Networking!

We had a great time last week talking about networking and making others feel comfortable. The big secret? Just as with making yourself feel comfortable, be prepared and focus on others.

This week we’ll talk about what to do after a networking meeting to continue to create connection. (Yes, we did talk a little bit about that, but we’ll have more ideas about leveraging your newfound connections.)

So join us on Friday at Panera Bread in Cosner’s Corner, 10059 Jefferson Davis Highway, Fredericksburg, VA. All meetings are Fridays from 3 to 5 PM. For more information, call me: (703) 622-5282.

Oh, and bring a friend!

Coffee and Coaching — Exciting Things Happening!

Wow! Coffee and Coaching is really lots of fun! People are excited about the format, melding professional development, personal insights, coaching, and masterminding.

Oh, and we enjoy some coffee (or your favorite warm or soft beverage).

Last week in review

Last week was lots of fun. We talked about how to stop feeling awkward when networking. The secret? A couple of things:

  • Know why you are going to the networking event. Knowing why you are there will help you accomplish your goals.
  • Plan your time there. Whether you are going to meet someone in particular, or just to meet somebody new, plan questions you can ask so that you don’t have to think about them while you are talking. You can then listen!
  • Go with the idea that you are going to meet people and make friends. If you do that, you’ll have plenty of time to do business. So relax and enjoy the time!

The coming week

We are devoting the month of April to effective networking concepts. So, in that spirit, our topic this Friday is: Helping Others Feel Good While Networking.

As usual, we will be at the Panera Bread in Cosner’s Corner, 10059 Jefferson Davis Highway, Fredericksburg, VA. Friday afternoon, 3-5 PM.

Come on by and bring a friend!